reenlistment???

Hmm.....This is a hard thing to answer. There are so many people that are fighting to stay in that for him to stay in if he doesn't want to....why? Are there options for him if he gets out. Has he fully explored them?

mostly because he's not happy in and doesn't like the constant stress of if he makes someone mad they'll try to force him out with a dishonorable discharge with the past 2 units..... yes he's put of his resume, applied for jobs over the past 9 months and nothing that will meet our needs has come up.....

He can go to school, use his GI bill and they will pay him BAH for an E-% in whatever area his school is in.

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thats what I told him that he can go to school, still get paid and i am working full time we could make it work but he still is too scared to get out and too proud to accept help when my family offeres to give us a place to stay for 6 months to a year till we can get a place of our own .... I don't know what else i can do

I had the same situation. My husband chose to get out but blames me for "forcing" him to get out even though after his deployment he couldn't stand being in the Army. He would complain about it literally ever single day to the point that he tried to break his leg to get out. Now he resents me so much for making him get out because it was his career. He tried a semester of school, and now says that he is not going to use his GI bill. So you know, I think this is a really tough question to answer. I know that you're miserable, I was too. However, I didn't try to get involved. If I could do it again, I would at least try to get involved with the FRG and make more friends before I suggested to him to get out. It sounds like he is trying to look for a job, but it's honestly not going to compare financially to what he make now in the military unless he goes to school. So if he is the type of person who is motivated to go to school, then he will be fine when he gets out. He will have a better opportunity by getting BAH then those who just go to school out of highschool. I wanted him to get out as well because I hated the deployments and the fear that he may not come back. I just think that these military guys get so used to having a guaranteed stable income that they are to afraid to step out into the unknown job security of civilian life. It can be done, but it's gunna take a little work. Above all, my advice to you is to communicate with your husband to make certain this is what he really wants, and not just to reenlist because it seems easier than finding a new way of life. It will put a lot of strain on your relationship if he is unhappy as well.